What does being an authentic you mean? Who are you? Do you know? If you do not know who you are and what your values are then you may be living a life based on and led by other people’s opinions and values. Take for example Instagram or reality television where we are bombarded by images of perfect people with perfect lives. We believe we have to be like them to be ‘good’, to be ‘perfect’. In this race to perfection and the perfect celebrity style life, we lose what it is that makes us our unique self. We lose our authenticity. Our image, our lives are based on external validations and that can create a whole heap of unhappiness and dis-satisfaction.
Many of us sense that there is something more to life than just chasing the perfect Instagram life. To know who we are we have to look inside of ourselves and learn to recognise what it is that we truly desire and what our purpose is. If you listen to your inner voice, your gut feeling, it can guide you to make better choices for you. It can be hard a first to distinguish between the ego and your inner voice but with practice you can learn to do it. I used to be afraid to say no and went along with things just to please other people. It can be anything from going on a holiday to somewhere you don’t really want to go to please others in your family to you not prioritising things you want to do because you have the washing or the ironing to do. This can build resentment if you are always being the one who is compromising their wishes and desires. One thing I did was to begin to delegate more. I live in a household where everyone is able bodied so they can help out more and most of the time it is done without complaint. Now I listen to my inner voice and follow it. Sure there are still compromises but they are more even whereas before they were very one-sided. The reason I can do that is that I know what I want, what I like and what I don’t like. I am able to express myself because I know myself. If you know your core values and beliefs, then you can create a life which reflects those. Life flows. It won’t always be perfect but it will be your life and not an Instagram life. There will be a sense of satisfaction and contentment because it is yours. It will be more resilient because it is not based on external validation; it comes from deep within you. An authentic you. Beginning to value my authentic self more has made me more confident and much much happier.
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